PINS and PASSWORDS: Updated

Inching Towards 80

PLEASE NOTE: –APOLOGIES!  WORDPRESS, THE PUBLISHING PLATFORM I’VE USED SINCE 2008, HAS CHANGED IT’S PUBLISHING TO THIS BLOCK DESIGN AND REDUCED FONT SIZE. I’VE BEEN TRYING FOR HOURS TO GET BACK TO THE “CLASSIC DESIGN” THAT WE’RE FAMILIAR WITH–TO NO AVAIL.  IF YOUR COMPUTER HAS THE OPTION OF ENLARGING PRINT (USUALLY AT TOP OF SCREEN WITH A CAPITAL “A” IN TWO SIZES, IT SHOULD MAKE THIS POST READABLE–(MORE READABLE??) IN THE MEANTIME, I WILL WORK ON THIS PROBLEM AND HOPEFULLY RESOLVE THE ISSUE.  

Years pass. Our pins and passwords may have changed many times–or not. We are supposed to change them–mix it up a bit–but do we? And if we do, are we diligent about deleting the old and replacing with the new?

For starters, check out the original post on the subject, written almost 9 years ago, written before my husband’s unexpected death.


https://wp.me/pGfkw-5QV

He was a very organized person, many pins and passwords were easy to access. But some we probably don’t usually think about (like Adobe reader–which for some reason way back I needed to access), were not. 

The “‘Digital Life after Death” column below from the Washington Post two weeks ago, introduces situations that update the subject. At least one–if not more–may prevent needless stress later on.  
 

https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2019/02/28/help-desk-digital-life-after-death-passwords-post-its-new-comcast-nightmare/?utm_term=.4f3f8e35e3e3

Inching Towards 80: Challenging and Jumpstarting Aging Minds

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To my Readers and Followers~

     A personal note that makes a point about older people’s mental agility–or at least mine. Since my absence from blogging, WordPress (my ‘publishing platform’) has made what are no doubt well-thought-out improvements/changes, communicated in the same way we get messages on any of our devices that have been updated, or need updating. I paid little attention to them during my blogging absence. Result: I’m learning some changes by trial and error (always fun and heartening when I’m successful); but I’m still challenged by others.

     Indeed as I try to transition my Help!Aging Parents blog to Inching Towards 80, I realize I’ve lost/forgotten certain mastery over blog techniques once learned, taken for granted, and now having to be rekindled in my memory bank. And thus it was with day-before-yesterday’s post. While I like to hold posts at least a day before publishing to catch typos, clarify, often rewrite bits, it went out in “Publish” form, rather than “Preview.” Below is the finished product I planned for you to ultimately read.

BABY GRANDMA IT’S COLD OUTSIDE! 

I doubt there’s much argument: the world is screwy–a mess–and the weather isn’t exempt. Especially recently, unusually cold weather has gripped much of the country.  What are implications for older people?

  1. Bundle up: We’ve known since we were bundled up as little children that we had to wear different, warmer clothing. But did we know that loose–as opposed to tight–layers of clothing keep us warmer because of the air trapped between the layers? or that mittens are much warmer than gloves?
  2. Be alert–slick pavement: We learned to walk carefully on slippery, icy  pavement, most likely when our young, supple little bodies slipped and fell–relatively close to the ground and were not as susceptible to the consequences of aging broken bones. Click the  US News older adults guide –dealing with cold weather.
  3. Over-exertion is bad: Children heard that older people shouldn’t over-exert themselves–something about the heart as I recall; but what exactly did that mean? In our younger days–at least mine–I happily shoveled snow for our next-door neighbors who I thought were old (50-60?), and thus could have heart problems if they shoveled. Would older people today find this act of kindness a sweet insult?  (Read Mayo Clinic’s explanation of low temperatures’ impact on aging bodies…eg. narrowing blood vessels.)
  4. Older bodies lose heat faster than younger bodies. At the same temperature, older people can feel colder than younger people. Why? The fatty layer below the skin thins with age, reducing the fat layer that helps conserve heat, thus tolerance for cold decreases. Aging parents, who stayed with their married daughter and family over Thanksgiving, caused major complaining: They raised the thermostat to stay warm. The daughter “suffocated” throughout their visit because it was “intolerably hot.” A ‘heads-up’ for us when we’re house-guests?
  5. Dress smart. Should we, older adults, “wear boots with non-skid soles even on short trips outside and make certain our walkway is clear and treated with sand or salt? If using a cane, do we make certain the rubber tip has been replaced before it has worn out? Some health professionals recommend using specialized tips for canes and walkers designed to provide extra traction on the ice…..” Good advice? It comes from US News’s Older Adults Guide To Cold Weather.

Many of us inching towards 80 don’t consider ourselves old and value staying healthy, staying mobile, and having independence. Sr. Advisor R, who you may recall lived in her home independently over 60 years (and died there at 101) had many wise sayings–this one jumps out at me: “Take care of yourself or you won’t be able to take care of anything else. Isn’t that what aging smart is all about?
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Related:
–Changes in the Body With Aging: Richard W. Besdine, MD, Greer Director, Division of Geriatrics and Warren Alpert Medical School of Brown University
–Cold Weather Safety for Older Adults:  NIH–Nat’l Institute on Aging
Video: from AGE UKHow Older People are Affected by Cold Weather 

Next, I’ll work on updating the right and left columns. But first I’m escaping the cold weather for a few weeks– next week. So publishing will be sporadic–a surprise for you and for me! Feedback from you on this new start is welcomed and appreciated. Thanks!

 

 

INCHING TOWARDS 80: Phones- Tech-Challenged Seniors vs Teens

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The video below is making its rounds. What does it say about the brains of older people–and of those much younger? We may be too hard on ourselves??!!

You will realize from the re-do post that follows tomorrow, returning to blogging is posing some challenges for my older brain–frustrating, not critical. It was written yesterday; planned for publishing today. I’ll save it until tomorrow to publish, that way no one is on overload. Since the weather is still very cold and getting colder, the redo perhaps adds insight into the older brain–as well as dealing with cold weather. 

Watch this video and the next (the interview that follows). Does it lift spirits?
Related: A Test for Teenagers  

Inching towards 80: Seniors, Snow, and Frigid Weather–Aging Smart

BABY GRANDMA IT’S COLD OUTSIDE! 

I doubt there’s much argument: the world is screwy–a mess–and the weather isn’t exempt. Especially recently, unusually cold weather has gripped much of the country.  What are implications for older people?

  1.  Bundle up: We’ve known since we were bundled up as little children that we had to wear different, warmer clothing. But did we know that loose–as opposed to tight–layers of clothing keep us warmer because of the air trapped between the layers? or that mittens are much warmer than gloves?
  2. Be alert–slick pavement: We learned to walk carefully on slippery, icy  pavement, most likely when our young, supple little bodies slipped and fell–relatively close to the ground and were not as susceptible to the consequences of aging broken bones. Click the  US News older adults guide, –dealing with cold weather.
  3. Over-exertion is bad: Children heard that older people shouldn’t over-exert themselves–something about the heart as I recall; but what exactly did that mean? In our younger days–at least mine–I happily shoveled snow for our next-door neighbors who I thought were old (50-60?), and thus could have heart problems if they shoveled. Would older people today find this act of kindness a sweet insult?  (Read Mayo Clinic’s explanation of low temperatures’ impact on aging bodies…eg. narrowing blood vessels.)
  4. Older bodies lose heat faster than younger bodies. Older people tend to feel colder. Why?The fatty layer below the skin thins with age thus reducing the fat layer that helps conserve heat. When it thins, tolerance for cold decreases. A conversation about aging parents who stayed with their married daughter over Thanksgiving, elicited major complaining: Her parents raised the thermostat in her house to stay warm. The daughter “suffocated” throughout their visit because it was “intolerably hot.” Normal bodily changes can make older people feel colder. Is that a “heads-up” for us when we’re house-guests?
  5. Dress smart. Should we, older adults, “wear boots with non-skid soles even on short trips outside and make certain our walkway is clear and treated with sand or salt? If using a cane, do we make certain the rubber tip has been replaced before it has worn out? Some health professionals recommend using specialized tips for canes and walkers designed to provide extra traction on the ice…..” Good advice? It comes from US News’s Older Adults Guide To Cold Weather.

Many of us inching towards 80 don’t consider ourselves old and value staying healthy, staying mobile, and having independence. Sr. Advisor R, who you may recall lived in her home independently over 60 years (and died there at 101) had many wise sayings–this one jumps out at me: “Take care of yourself or you won’t be able to take care of anything else. Isn’t that what aging smart is all about?

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Related:
Changes in the Body With Aging: Richard W. Besdine, MD, Greer Director, Division of Geriatrics and Warren Alpert Medical School of Brown University 

Cold Weather Safety for Older Adults:  NIH–Nat’l Institute on Aging

Video: from AGE UKHow Older People are Affected by Cold Weather 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

INCHING TOWARDS 80

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Help! Aging Parents continues now– as we age and inch

Expediency and other factors make it necessary to add “Inching”  posts to my Help! Aging Parents blog–at least for the time being.  The best information and advice initially published for adult children of aging parents in Help! Aging Parents, is now repurposed for those of us now Inching towards 80.
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Aging Smart

After a decade of writing Help! Aging Parents, I realize that I and my readers–every day–are inching towards 80. Indeed, from the day we are born we inch towards 80, don’t we?

That said, didn’t the “inching” seem so much slower when we were young…. (remember how long it seemed from one birthday to the next)? And as we’ve aged haven’t all–or at least most– of us found birthdays come faster and faster. Of course, they don’t.  But….

Although I’m not yet 80, I think we all want to give ourselves the best chance to age with as few 80-ish problems and as much luck as possible. So it makes sense to be informed.

To that end, Inching Towards 80 commits itself. Preventing the preventable and controlling what we can seems smart and worth the effort. Because the Sr. advisors to Help! Aging Parents  shared so much about aging smart, Inching Towards 80 honors them–and motivates me–to combine their wisdom with reputable research, augmented by my counseling background.

Still not completely back~however…

 

While “must-do” and “don’t know how to do” have prevented my planned return via “INCHING TOWARDS EIGHTY,” I return here to wish all who are continuing to follow, a very MERRY CHRISTMAS and a HAPPYand hopefully much more stable and peaceful—2019.

Simplifying Helps People Age Better

As we inch towards 80–a new normal for me is attempted, taken from the late Sr. Advisor R’s “SIMPLIFY, SIMPLIFY, SIMPLIFY.”  Admittedly I don’t get an A+. That said, after trauma, overload etc. it makes sense to be conscious of ratcheting down…simplifying.

When on overload, it’s difficult. It involves decisions: what must be done and how to do it efficiently. Reconnecting at holiday time this year— after a 2-year absence since my husband died—topped my to-do list.

I was going away. Armed with address list, boxes of cards and stamps, in addition to the normal necessities, I headed to the DC area. Perhaps the break, getting out of the routine, contributed to clearer thinking. In any event, I take out the address lists, look at the quantity of people, and think “options:”

1. Computer-generated letter: print, fold, sign, address envelope, lick stamp…perhaps more personal and informative than a card, but as time-consuming.

2.  Emailed cards: Subscribers (I’m one at Jacquie Lawson) have loads of choices and the attractive holiday note cards allow for short or long personal messages. Some people prefer a card that can be held and displayed (I’m usually one). But the red and gold e-note-card prevailed. My unexpected reward came via the reply card that accompanies the e-card. I received many notes back—heartwarming and interesting, especially for someone who has been “out of the loop” and that includes so many older people.

Whether snail mail or email connecting at holidays enriches life. Doesn’t that help all ages feel good? And shouldn’t that help parents and us age better–if not–well.

Note: This blog still takes no ads. The link to JL is to get an idea of e-card offerings.