Aging Parents: Older Women’s Hair Revisited–with 2014 additions

Hair. A focus of women, regardless of age.
Look Good. Feel Better

Tips for appropriate cuts and gray hair, coupled with advice from medical professionals and top stylists to help women look good and age well.

I remember hearing that at one time the “wisdom” of the day for women (mostly until  the last half  of the 20th century) was that going out and buying a new hat would make ladies feel better. Hats were in style for over half of the 20th century. Can we deduce hats could hide a bad hair day, helped women look stylish, and therefore provided a psychological lift in an era when therapy was not stylish?

Minus a hat, isn’t the search for ways to make hair look good–or draw attention away from bad hair–a constant? (Actually, isn’t this true for all perceived inadequacies–be they inadequacies of body, limbs, skin, face, or hair–especially as we age?)

Internet articles to the rescue

Help! Aging Parents has written about aging women’s hair care, hair loss, hair styles, and hair enhancement quoting tricologists, MD’s and other hair experts and stylists (see RELATED below). As Time Goes By has a series of very good posts (below). In September Grandparents.com offered “7 Secrets to the Haircut that Will Make You Look Younger” (http://www.grandparents.com/health-and-wellbeing/beauty-and-style/haircuts-for-women-over-50). It was recently republished, with additional edits, in the 3/7/14 Huffington Post (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/07/younger-looking-haircut_n_4897409.html?ir=Fifty&utm_campaign=030714&utm_medium=email&utm_source=Alert-fifty&utm_content=Title). Key difference in the 2 posts is found in “Healthy Ends are Younger-Looking…” section.

An earlier HP article “Gray Hair Styling Tips,” can be found by scrolling below the 3/7/14 piece. It no doubt provides worthwhile tips for those who color their hair (eg. “shampoo once a week and just conditioner and water the other days:); yet I question whether this applies to those who have let their hair gray naturally.

Reason: Some on Mother’s side of the family have a prematurely-gray gene. We’ve had graying hair for so long. (Fun to see played out in our late-30’s at a first-ever family reunion.) I think those of us who haven’t colored our hair simply made adjustments as needed, learning what works best. For example, I question “…shampoo just once a week and just conditioner and water on the other days.” The rationale may be that it dries out the scalp (skin). The elders in my 90-year-old aunt’s assisted living facility were bathed/showered once a week for that reason. Check with a doctor if in doubt about a parent’s aging scalp (skin).

“Look good, feel better.” Isn’t it a given, regardless of age? Yet looking good takes on additional importance as parents age, slow down, see less well, hear less well, and lose many things that were previously taken for granted while acquiring wrinkles, thinning hair etc..  With good information we can be there to help.

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3/26/14 Help! Aging Parents has been nominated for 2014 “Best Blogs by Individuals” recognition and we would appreciate your vote by 4/28 if you’re on Facebook. We were honored to be judged part of a 3-way tie for first runner-up last year thanks to your votes which took us to the judging round. Click top badge at right to view a universe of helpful aging blogs and resources, even if you can’t vote on Facebook.

Changing often: “Of Current Interest” (right sidebar). Timely links to research and information from top universities, plus some fun stuff to help parents age well.

(Please note: Because I will be going between the Southwest and Northwest for several months, most likely I can post only once a week for the time being. It will be on Tuesday or a Saturday–just not both.)

RELATED
http://www.timegoesby.net/weblog/2013/05/hair-today-gone-tomorrow-part-3.html
Ronni Bennett’s 3-part series on her search for dealing with hair-loss.
Up Close and Personal with 7 instructive tips
https://helpparentsagewell.com/2013/06/03/thinning-hair-and-instructive-links/ The More link is one of the best I’ve read, with information from dermatologists (MD’s, one a professor) that answers many questions.
https://helpparentsagewell.com/2013/06/11/thinning-hair-more-solutions-to-hide-scalp-for-aging-parents-and-us/
https://helpparentsagewell.com/2012/08/04/aging-parents-hair-styles-for-women-in-their-60s-and-older/

 

Thinning Hair: More Solutions to Hide Scalp–for Aging Parents (and Us)

Looking good=feeling better… and has to help parents age well

Realizing there’s no proven and approved, relatively simple way to regrow hair, the search goes on. If FDA-approved Latisse (it thickens eyelashes), can be made to do the same for the hair on our head, there will be a predictable stampede to the drug stores. As of now, however, we continue to wait and search for a miracle product.

And Help! Aging Parents continues its mission to help aging parents (and us) feel good about our hair. Today’s topic: topical products: Rogaine, MoniMay, and Toppik.

A friend of many years had a prescription for Rogaine when it first came on the market and was only available by prescription. In those days she said she applied Rogaine twice a day….and it was “really a bother;” but she was intent on stopping her hair “fall-out” and encouraging new growth. She was in her early 50’s then, and willing to put up with “the bother.”

She hasn’t used Rogaine in years, she said recently upon questioning (we’d discussed it a lot when she began)– but did use it over a period of years. Her hair didn’t noticeably fall out after she quit using Rogaine; although she said it may have reverted to the amount of hair she had when she first began with Rogaine.

She told me her daughter (mid-40’s) suggested a new product, MoniMay, to her a few months ago. It was developed by a hair colorist, for her mother who ultimately died from skin cancer that began on her head. Thus, SPF 15 has been added to the product. (See video in above link.) Based on the high SPF numbers we are now encouraged to use, I wonder about the effectiveness of SPF 15.  But with or without SPF at any strength, my friend has begun using MoniMay and seems satisfied. (If worried about sun because of balding or thinning hair, a hat is no doubt the best protection.)

Sr. Advisor, R told me about Toppik earlier this year. She even bought me a small container (which I have yet to try). Since she could never find a suitable wig, she decided she’d try Toppik. (See Demonstration video. The results look great.) At age 99, R’s hair is fine and has thinned over many decades to the point she says Toppik is the best “concealer” she has found–at least for her. Isn’t it amazing she still cares!

Check links. If any one of these products hides thinning areas, makes hair look fuller and is within one’s capabilities, it would seem to be worth a try….. and might even make a nice little gift as we try to help parents age well.

Related:
Rogaine for men  http://www.rogaine.com/
Rogaine for women  http://www.rogaine.com/category/for+women.do
Toppik  http://www.toppik.com/page/how-toppik-works

Older Women’s Thinning Hair, Instructive Links, and Styles for Women 60+

Ever feel like you’re wearing 2 hats? One gaining information for yourself and one gaining information to help parents age well? From boomers to aging parents (mothers) the information in these first 3 links will be useful. Professionals explain probably all there is for a layperson to know about hair.

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001173.htm the facts about female pattern baldness from the US National Library of Medicine, National Institutes of Health.

http://www.nextavenue.org/article/2013-04/what-women-midlife-need-know-about- Here is a thorough explanation of hair loss with options for improving the situation, thanks to Michigan dermatologist Marcy Street. Read about Latisse–very interesting, for those who aren’t familiar with it.

Most products claiming to restore hair–don’t. And one that seems to at least stop the loss, must be applied every day (period) or there’s a reversal. Latisse, on the other hand, may be the one that will earn the manufacturer zillions of dollars by restoring hair on balding heads like it does on eyelashes. I’ve seen the results on 2 women’s eyelashes–were they ever thick! One was a nurse’s eyelashes in a major hospital’s outstanding wound care center where we took Sr. Advisor, R for her infected wound last November. Couldn’t help noticing the eyelashes; had to mention it. Nurse was delighted and said it was Latisse. Then a friend invited us to informal dinner at her home in Arizona. Hadn’t seen her–or her eyelashes–in a year. She was only too happy to talk about Latisse.

Note: Researchers testing eye drops for treating glaucoma, in the 1990s, noticed that patients were growing longer, thicker lashes. The company began development of a product that contained the same active ingredient but could be used for cosmetic purposes; Latisse became available in 2009.

 http://www.nextavenue.org/article/2012-04/beautiful-hair-any-every-age “examines some of the major factors affecting the health and appearance of your hair and what to do about them, including hands-on tips from the pros,” according to the article. I can’t improve on that summary. It’s worth reading–to be certain you’re well-informed.
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The links below are for fun, really. For some, seeing how good these 60+-year-old women look will be heartening. Below: a few slide shows with brief comments.

Here we see film industry women with various–including thinning– hair types and styles. Sally Field, Helen Mirren, Glenn Close and 2 others  http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/award-winning-hairstyle-fashion-over-60-slideshow-image/sally-field#7709104

Andrea Mitchell (at 65) begins this slide show of 6 blondes, followed by Diane Sawyer (at 66), Dona Mills (71),  Joanna Lumley (at 66), Judith Light (at 64) and Martha Stewart (at 71) .   http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/blonde-hair-styles-over-60-slideshow-image/1-andrea-mitchells-blonde-bob

They’re saying bangs hide wrinkles. Here actress Frances Fisher (now 61–don’t know anyone’s age in these photos) leads off this group of 5, followed by Patricia Richardson (now 62), Paula Deen the only nonactress, but can she cook! (now 66), Susan Blakely (now 64) and Susan Sarondon (now 66) http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/hairstyles-over-60-bangs-slideshow-image/1-choppy-bangs#7648184

In addition, as time permits, link to the slide shows for short, medium and long hair on women over 60.

http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/8-short-hair-styles-over-60-slideshow-image/1-pixie-hair-cut#7637614

http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/7-medium-length-hairstyles-over-60-slideshow-image/1-cybill-shepherds-glam-waves#7542564

http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/10-long-hairstyles-over-60-slideshow-image/1-alana-stewarts-long-curls

Check out “Newsworthy” (right sidebar). Links to timely tips, information and research from top universities and respected professionals–to help parents age well.
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Older Women’s Hair Styles (Again!) Gray, Thinning~ Up Close and Personal with 7 Instructive Tips

Background:
From Beer-Rinse-Eliminated to In-Order-on-Short-Notice 

Many recollections about our parents come to mind when they are gone. One memory concerns my mother, who never seemed to be ready on time. I think a family member said she was late to her wedding, but I believe now that was in jest. My parents eloped and I can’t understand how one can be late in that situation. Regardless, I think it was mother’s hair that made her late much of the time.

In some ways we want to be like our mothers. In other ways we learn what not to do.  Early on I resolved not to be a slave to my hair or a hairdresser. In a previous post I mentioned fussing with hair seemed to be in women’s DNA, beginning as preteens. After college I stopped adding a beer rinse for extra volume; stopped doing my own hair. As a working educator with a paycheck, I had my hair done once a week (just like my mother did). However, once living in NY for graduate school and subsequent counseling positions, I found regular hair appointments disruptive and the upkeep too time-consuming. (And every time I went west to visit my parents, mother was still fussing with her hair before going out, and still often late.) I decided on a pony tail style that looked in order on short notice and did my own hair, which was cut 3-4 times a year.

With aging comes gray hairs (unless one’s hair is colored), then more gray, and thinning hair, not to mention texture change. Many women simply try to look in order; others do what’s necessary to look stylish, others seem not to care…but this may be untrue. The last group may simply be clueless about what to do, how to do it, or lack the money and/or research ability to find professional help. It could be us later on–or our aging parents.

August 29, 2012, I began writing about older women’s hair styles. I didn’t realize then that I was also acquiring information for what could be upcoming problems maintaining my low-maintainance, always in order, hair style.  I added links to that post, liking the information and/or the styles, then proceeded to add 3 additional “hair” posts this year.

This winter my hair was in desperate need of a cut and styling.  I again researched hair styles for older women. Thus, the January 6th post. But I wasn’t in NY and didn’t want to risk a bad cut by a new hairdresser. Indeed, months passed without so much as a sissors touching one strand of my lifeless, drab, thinning, too-long hair before I returned to NY in April.  Finally a photo taken at a recent event, convinced me my hair was in crisis mode. A new hair “everything” went to the top of my priority list.

Moving Forward

Being in one of the most stylish (and expensive) cities in the world, I decided I would do serious checking and take the plunge–a serious hair cut and new style that would cover the thinning at the crown of my head (which I became aware of when looking in 2 mirrors at my depleted pony tail.) It led to my May 16th post and action.

My husband was out of town the next week  (he likes long hair).
–May 21: Day 1 I reviewed all my research, took notes, and made a list.
–May 22: Day 2 I summoned my courage and began making phone calls to what I believed were hair salons with the top stylists. Since I’d spent no money on my hair since December, I decided price wouldn’t be an object unless it was beyond reason.

The “salon environments” ranged from (what I gathered) “snooty” to casual. My first call was to “snooty, but excellent” because I could walk there. I was immediately, politely put on “hold” before I could blurt out more than “I know I need a new hair style…..” Courage failed me. I hung up and went back to my notes.

I decided to phone Eiji,  another salon just a short walk from my apartment. The woman on the phone was helpful, patient, and said Eiji did consultations. I liked that and the fact that Eiji, “trained for 10 years under the direction of the late stylist-guru John Sahag. ….At Eiji, the goal is to ensure that the clients not only feel beautiful when they leave, but are able to maintain their style until their next haircut.” My consultation would be at 10:30 the next morning.

–May 23: Day 3  I met Eiji; sat down in the chair in front of a mirror in a relaxing, unpretentious atmosphere. What followed amazed me. Elj’s hands began fluffing my hair away from my head in seemingly all directions; then he began, like a sculptor, arranging my hair around my face. He refined and refined in an inexplicable way, finally arriving at a “look” he liked–and so did I. Fearing I would lose courage, I asked if my hair could be cut immediately. He called another hairdresser over, explaining how to achieve the look. Someone else took over.

There was a lot of cutting, sometimes only a few strands at a time. I liked the look. Wish I had a picture of the new hairdo to insert, but I didn’t think to take a camera–hadn’t planned to go beyond “consultation.”

Next, the unthinkable happened. Within minutes of leaving Eiji’s salon, the skies opened up. Rain hadn’t been predicted. Everyone was running for a doorway or canopy. I was in the middle of the street–dashing with many others, as quickly as possible to the other side, only to find all possible shelter was already occupied.

By the time I got home, the newly cut, gently straightened, curved-towards-my-face hair style of today, gave way to soft curls. Fortunately, my hair cut was such that I was able to push back the sides and let the curls fall behind my ears to almost shoulder length, which looked fine. The rest of my hair regained its body with a little fluffing. The new, unintended, slightly modified style  looked good. I will replace my blog picture with a new one in time. In the meantime, I will share what I’ve learned and annotate some links that I find instructive.

7 Tips

1.  A good hair cut from an experienced stylist, who understands hair and your needs, makes the difference.
2. Fine, thinning, hair needs to stay clean (otherwise oil and “dirt”weighs it down, makes it look thinner, and scalp can show through).
3. Anything put on fine, thinning hair needs to be light–ie. hairspray, volumizer. Be careful with mousse. In my case, I was told not to use it…too heavy.
4. If you have a cowlick, brushing against its natural growth produces a fuller hair look in that area.
5. Brushing against the direction you want hair to go, then brushing it back to its wanted place can create a fuller look.
6. My hairdresser said it’s time-consuming and difficult–for those not accustomed to blow drying while using a wide round brush–to have the skill and the patience to do a good job. If not completely dry, mine would frizz, he said. He suggested big, round rollers. I bought the velcro type at the drug store. They need nothing to hold them in place. Wrap hair around–it stays. Fine hair can possibly dry on the rollers with little or no need for the dryer…that was my experience.
7. A very light spray keeps hair in place (especially good in a windy city like NYC lately).

This is long; it’s late. Tomorrow: the links.

Short Hair Cuts for Women Over 60

Look good, feel better…

…has been one of the consistent themes to help parents age well. Isn’t it uplifting to look in the mirror and like what we see? We all know that a bad hair day–or just plain bad Bad Hair Dayhair–makes no one look good or feel very good, so naturally this article grabbed my attention.

It comes from More magazine http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/6-short-hair-cuts-over-60-slideshow-image/1-cloris-leachmans-blond-pixie. Take a look, for those over 60 as well as for aging mothers and grandmothers. There are also styles for thinning and fine hair. I’m not a fan of the pixie cut, however, a stylist skilled doing layered hair could be an answer.

….. a few more shortish cuts: http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/slideshow/8-short-hair-styles-over-60-slideshow-image/1-pixie-hair-cut#7637614 with Helen Mirren and Jane Fonda again (but slight change to style) and 6 others.

Also, for variety, check out these “50 Hot Hairstyles Over 50;” and we know a few are 60+.  http://style.lifegoesstrong.com/50-hot-hairstyles-over-50/alfre-woodards-flippy-style.

And if you missed this August 9, 2012 post, there’s a photo of non-celebs (85 and 95) who look amazing for their ages. Are these excellent hairstyles for these elderly women!

Updates:
I note Ronni Bennett Time Goes By blog began Hair Loss posts on May 19th. No solutions yet, but she’s researching, as am I.

May 21 Time Goes By Ronni Bennet finds a really good hair dresser who knows how to cut, is able to give her a cut and new, shorter style that conceals her scalp. (Post has photos.)

May 23 I went to a really good hair dresser for a consultation; decided to get my hair cut on the spot–before losing courage. Result–a shorter, not short, style. See June 2nd post and tips.

Check out June 11, 2013 post for “topical” solutions (Rogaine, MoniMay, Toppik)