People Change, Not Much, however….
As adult children we have the ability to view parents in a different “light” than when we were young. Thus,
- If–thinking back–parents were never self-starters, chances are this will never change.
- If they didn’t initiate relationships when they were young, what makes us think they will be any different when they’re old?
Indeed, certain personality traits may have been masked because of a people-loving spouse who orchestrated the social life. Or perhaps natural relationships that develop among parents of children’s friends, work colleagues, neighbors– created a ready-made social group.
On the other hand, perhaps normally sociable, connected parents have just had bad luck, have lost friends to death or relocating, and can’t get going again. (After 3 months, consider it depression that they should get help for.)
The truth is–the lonesome, isolated-feeling of older parents can spill over to adult children, burdening them with an emotionally-weighed-down feeling. Another truth is, lonesome seniors aren’t easy/fun to be around–so it becomes a vicious cycle.
While we can’t change who a parent is, holidays like Christmas present an opportunity to delicately insert something into aging parents’ lives that can help them age well (if enjoying life more qualifies for this category).
Here’s where the Presto Printer Mailbox (see last post) could come to the rescue. Connections to others can come in daily, with “deliveries” much more often than snail mail. And connections with others is one of the three most important factors in helping people age well, according to every study I’ve read.
If this works, parents can graduate to PawPaw (see last post), where they can receive and send mail. PawPaw has a free trial period. Presto has a 60-day-trial period, after which there’s a refund if not satisfied.
While both of these may be a bit pricey for some, it’s the kind of gift a family can join together to give. And what better gift can a family give than the gift of connecting with others…one of the most important factors in helping people–in this case our parents or even grandparents–age well.