“Two years ago I discussed hearing aids with my doctor. He told me the best place to have an evaluation and said, just like someone needing a hip replacement, I’d know when the time was right. So I had the evaluation recently–two years later.” M, age 80+
M is one of the Help! Aging Parents advisors. When I first contacted M about hearing loss, she informed me she just got a hearing aid. She knows first hand; it’s all fresh in her mind. So I introduce her today and you can read more about her in SENIOR ADVISORS (above).
M’s Hearing Aid Experience
Not good! “Initially the hearing aids were so uncomfortable I pulled them out while driving–after leaving the audiologist’s…and managed to drop one of the tiny batteries on the floor. They aren’t that easy to see and find! I was so discouraged and thought what a waste of thousands of dollars.
I probably would have gone home like so many people do–and put them in a drawer and never looked at them again, except for the fact that they gave me an appointment for two weeks later. (It was included in the price.) But I left them in a drawer until two days before the scheduled appointment and decided I’d better try them. They didn’t seem to fit well–felt lose, were uncomfortable, and my ears itched.”
Perseverance! “I might not have persevered if the audiologist hadn’t been persistent and encouraging, making an adjustment, and giving me some pointers along with another appointment (again included in the price). I felt I would have to give an accounting of myself in two weeks so I wore them but still wasn’t convinced. I learned I wasn’t putting the batteries in correctly at the next appointment, and then–”
Amazing! “I left the audiologist’s after the third appointment to attend a meeting when I realized I was hearing everything! I didn’t have to pretend laughing when people laughed at something I couldn’t hear; I didn’t have to be embarrassed to ask someone to repeat something. I was used to piecing a conversation together as well as I could and maybe missed 10-15%. Now I hear it all.”
End Result: “I no longer must turn the TV volume up so loud that I worry about my neighbors complaining. It took three additional appointments, but I’m used to the hearing aids and I’m no longer aware of what I call ‘exaggerated sounds’ that I heard in the beginning–things that sounded weird– like the rustle of tissue paper or water running. I’m very pleased at this point and I give credit to the encouragement of the audiologist.”
THE BIG QUESTION: Why do people resist hearing aids?
- “Certainly because they take time to get used to and they must be cleaned and batteries must be put in correctly and replaced when necessary.
- But also hearing aids–unlike glasses–are a symbol of old age–like a cane. And many older people’s vanity gets in the way.
- You know it takes wisdom to start using a cane, and it takes wisdom to know when you should start using a hearing aid.”
M reminds adult children:
–“Old people can become very stubborn about certain things.” Translated: if you’ve mentioned a hearing aid to a parent once, continued suggestions probably won’t help (unless it’s a suggestion from a doctor).
–“If you’re asked to repeat something, repeat slowly–not louder.”
–“The tone of voice that accompanies talking loud, can be easily mistaken for impatience.”
–“Try not to convey impatience to your parents.”
PS. M also mentioned the fact that men may be more resistant to hearing aids because they usually don’t have hair, like women, that hides their ears and thus, their hearing aid.