For satisfaction in later life–to age well, research has told us that maintaining physical and mental health, volunteering and having connections with others are necessary.
One researcher, Dr. Monika Ardelt, an associate sociology professor at the University of Florida in Gainesville, wondered could people in poor health, those who’d suffered losses, and those “whose social roles were diminished”–age successfully or would they just have to “give up.” Her recent findings:
The above and what follows come from an interesting 3/13/14 NY Times article: The Science of Older and Wiser.” It highlights research confirming the importance of wisdom in aging well–in part:
“People who show evidence of high wisdom are also more likely to have better coping skills …they would be more active than passive about dealing with hardship”
“….when people in nursing homes or with a terminal illness score high on Dr. Monika Ardelt’s wisdom scale, they also report a greater sense of well-being”
“True wisdom involves recognizing the negative both within and outside ourselves and trying to learn from it”
“Wisdom is characterized by a reduced self-centeredness”
“If you’re wise, you’re not focusing so much on what you need and deserve, but on what you can contribute.”
“Gererativity”–thinking about the next generation, giving back without needing anything in return….the wisest people do that in a way that doesn’t see their lifetime as limiting when this might happen.”
Whatever the nature of one’s limitations, simplifying one’s life is also a sign of wisdom.”
(Looking back we find that Erik Erikson, renowned for his 8 stages of human development theory, and his wife were in their 80’s when they added a ninth stage emphasizing wisdom.)
R, now 100 and a Senior Advisor to this blog, is the wisest person I know. She has maintained her mental and physical health as well as her connections with others. While she doesn’t volunteer in the literal sense, she is constantly doing for others–giving support– and advice (when asked), and little gifts. Her “Words of Wisdom,” posted a year ago:
As you age, it helps to simplify your life.
Know when to say “no.”
Don’t abuse yourself; you get enough from the outside.
Take care of yourself or you won’t be able to take care of anything else.
Is it wise to say more? Perhaps. The above may give an idea of our parents’ wisdom. For specifics–and an “impediment” to wisdom, click the full article.
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