Sr. Advisor RHW, Esq., a still-practicing trusts and estates attorney, expected to get back quickly with an answer to the question

How can parents ensure that they’ll get the best available care
and that their children won’t be “at each other’s throats” debating how their parents’ money is spent–when parents can no longer be in charge?

asked in the 2/16/13 post- Aging Parents, Money, and Siblings: Thinking Ahead. Unfortunately something has temporarily interfered. Please come back tomorrow.