Hi, I'm Susan~
Professionally: High School Counselor (retired)
Scarsdale HS, NY.
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Masters degree: Teachers College, Columbia U., NY
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Author: Helping Children of Divorce (Schocken Books)
Wife, daughter, sister, far-away-living adult child. My parents died at ages 88 and 94. I'm a far-away-living daughter-in-law (her only "daughter") of my husband's inspirational mother (age 100), living alone, independently in her home of 65+ years and one of the Sr. Advisors to my blog.
Summer '08 I completed a manuscript for a 2nd book, to help adult children facing their parents' aging challenges. While a top NY literary agent had the manuscript, the late 2008 economic collapse was bad for publishing. She suggested I write a blog using ideas and insights from the manuscript + timely information. Help! Aging Parents is the result.
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About This Blog
There are so many aspects of helping parents age well, just as there were so many aspects of helping my high school counselees mature well. I found the following lead to success, regardless of age group.
EMPOWERING, AFFIRMING SELF-ESTEEM, SHOWING RESPECT, ADDING SOME FUN (my little dog was often in my office).
Thus, each post--regardless of subject--is written with some of the above in mind: They helped even my most "disaffected" (euphemism for unruly) counselees feel better about themselves, make the effort, and move forward. I share with high hopes that your parents can age better and have some added enjoyment...until the end.
Help! Aging Parents, published weekly on Tuesday or Saturday night, is committed to sharing the best information, professional advice, personal experiences and creative ideas.
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Of Current Interest
8/13/14 IS IT OLDER PEOPLE'S COGNITIVE DECLINE OR A LACK OF MOTIVATION? A Study by Dr. Thomas Hess, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, U of N. Carolina State. Click Lack of Motivation May Masquerade as Cognitive Decline in Older Adults
8/11/2014 HOW TO TRIM THICKENED TOENAILS: Mayo Clinic. Click: Very Helpful Slide Presentation, though photos are a bit gross
7/5/14 PREVENT AGE-RELATED VISION PROBLEMS WITH THE RIGHT SUNGLASSES
Click: Choosing the right sunglasses
5/21-5/22 YOU AREN'T OLD UNTIL YOU'RE 80--Daily Mail On-Line
Click: Interesting recent findings from a British study
5/17/14--FOR CAREGIVERS--Harvard Medical School HEALTHbeat
Click: Attention Caregivers: Making Use of Helpful Services
March '14 BEDSORES (pressure sores)--Mayo Clinic.
Click: Symptoms, Causes, When to See a Doctor
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3/12/14 CAREGIVING--Harvard Health Publications, Harvard Medical School.
Click: When Caring For a Loved One, Many Caregivers Go It Alone
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ALZHEIMER'S Caregiving Newsletter: "7 Tips for Medical Visits"
1/9/14 Mayo Clinic reprint of a 9/2/10 article.
Click: Make the most of the time you have with the doctor
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PALLIATIVE CARE is not Hospice. Understand the difference.
12/16/13 Click: One Family's Experience from NPR's All Things Considered radio program. Listen or read text.
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VISION--Cataracts, Glaucoma, Macular Degeneration, Floaters SLIDE SHOW
12/11/13 Mayo Clinic Click: Age-Related Vision Problems and how the eye perceives them--EXCELLENT PRESENTATION
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ALZHEIMER'S AND HOLIDAYS 11/28/13 Mayo Clinic Health
Information Newsletter--Click: Alzheimer's: Tips to Make Holidays more Enjoyable
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DEMENTIA: CAREGIVER GUILT
Undeserved Guilt Often Trips Up Dementia Caregivers-Mayo Clinic
Category Archives: Gifts
Moving on happens. It’s difficult to control. I’m thinking that I’ve witnessed life come full circle and my parents’ last gift to me is this mountain of stuff that–in the going through and reading– has helped make sense of much of my past. Continue reading
Perhaps there’s an elderly gentleman who will feel very special if he receives an unexpected phone call with Father’s Day wishes. As I write this I’m thinking about who I will phone. Father’s Day provides us another chance to give elders attention, so important in aging well. That should make them feel good. And that makes us feel good too, doesn’t it.
A Round-up of 45 Gifts for Fathers and Grandfathers Continues
45 Father’s Day Gifts– 8 Categories, arranged alphabetically: Accessories and Clothing to Vision enhancers, compiled the last 3 years. I’ve reread them, updated them, and added some– remembering the time and outside-the-box thinking that went into compiling the original list. Two posts (–1 followed by–2) Continue reading
MEMORIAL DAY–MONDAY MAY 26, 2014 Can we look into the hearts of old people? Things change. Values change–both at a rapid rate. It’s part of today’s world and we deal with it. Sometimes it’s easy to overlook the impact … Continue reading
Holidays provide endless opportunities to help parents age well. Taking elders out for a change of scenery is one–especially for those who are basically housebound, mobility challenged, or don’t venture forth except for essentials like doctors’ appointments. It’s uplifting, muscles … Continue reading
I loved this Valentine idea when Monique told me she thought of it for her mother a few years ago; and I introduced it on this blog last year. It will be R’s Valentine this year as it better meets her new needs. Continue reading